via Rabbi David Lapin, iawaken.org
“Happiness is not about how much you have, but about how little you miss.”
Would you daven three times a day (assuming you are a man) if there were no chiyuv (obligation) or reward for davening? Which mitzvot would you continue to keep consistently if they were voluntary and there was no reward for doing them nor negative consequence for not keeping them? Think about it carefully and consider asking it of your children.
I recently put this question to a group of Benei Torah from various walks of life that had come to join me in a “Tefillin Workshop.” They answered candidly: very few would keep anything, some would continue to keep Shabbat because it was good for family cohesiveness. This means that their shemirat hamitzvot (mitzvah observance) was inherently fear driven, and they experienced no inherent attraction to and benefit in most mitzvah observance, or not sufficient to warrant the commitment to it. This contrasts with, say, practitioners of Meditation who practice it religiously even though there is no chiyuv or reward. They do it for the benefits they feel. Why are so many of us not feeling similar benefits from our davening?
I reviewed some halachik, Talmudic and kabbalistic elements of the mitzvah of Tefillin with the Workshop and then took them through a process of learning how to put Tefillin on mindfully. We used some simple breathing and concentration techniques to still the mind from distraction and focus it on the mitzvah. We learnt how to feel the various contact points of the Tefillin with the body. We practiced staying with the experience of the mitzvah for a few moments before launching into the davening. I urged them to practice these techniques and let me know their experiences. For many it was life changing and has remained so. Those young men would now put on Tefillin each day even if it were not a chiyuv. Several are investing a little more time and a lot more thought in this precious mitzvah than they ever have before.
Part of the allure of Eastern and New Age Philosophies is that they enhance their practitioners’ Olam Hazeh (This World) experience rather than merely promise them a better Olam Habbah (World to Come). People who practice yoga and meditation feel the benefits almost immediately. Relaxing their bodies and clearing their minds, they learn how to access deeper levels of their subconscious wisdom.
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